Love in a F*cked Up World is a podcast hosted by Dean Spade that offers tools and ideas that can help us to build and sustain strong relationships and strong movements, because our resistance movements are made of our relationships, and are only as strong as they are. Recent guests on the podcast include Mariame Kaba, adrienne maree brown, Prentis Hemphill, Peter Gelderloos, Shira Hassan, and Eli Clare. Morgan Bassichis joins Dean for shorter episodes focusing on tools for addressing specific problems and tangles, like long distance dating, deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship, dealing with hard feelings like jealousy and resentment, and how to de-escalate a crush when you want to.
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Love in a F*cked Up World is a listener-supported podcast. There are no ads and we rely on listener support to cover our production costs. You can support the podcast by joining our community on Patreon, where you’ll find bonus content and fun message boards where you can join conversations related to podcast themes. We hope you’ll join us there! Free membership is available.
Featured episode: Love and Relationships Across Prison Walls (Part 1)
Prisons are designed to isolate, break social ties, and destroy communities. Yet, people fight hard to keep relationships going across prison walls, and through all the crises that prisons manufacture. Episode 26 is Part One of a multi-episode series on relating across prison walls. This episode features conversations with friends inside prison, people who have been released, and people who have been doing direct support to prisoners for decades, about the barriers to connection that prisons create and the ways people stay connected despite them. Topics include the way prison strains or distorts relationships, how to strengthen and repair relationships being stressed in these ways, dealing with unequal power dynamics in relationships, and adjusting to new relationship dynamics as someone comes out of prison.
Share this Episode with Friends Inside
Interested in sharing this episode with friends inside? Some people might be able to find our podcast on their Kiosk system, but for those who can’t we suggest printing the transcript and mailing it in. Here it is in a format that takes up less pages to make printing cheaper and get through page limits:
8 page (smaller font) .docx / 10-page (larger font) .docx
Become a Penpal
One of our hopes for making this episode is that more people will become penpals to prisoners. If you’re interested in becoming a penpal, find a chapter of Black and Pink near you, or check out other penpal programs:
- Black & Pink
- Power Blossoms
- Abolitionist Mail Project
- Trans Pride Initiative
- Critical Resistance Prisoner Mail Program
- Flying Over Walls
- ARC Gender Justice
Links and Resources for this Episode
- Read and support Daughters Magazine.
- Watch this full-length interview with Corey about feminist relationships across walls and more.
- If you want to reach out to Endjah, message Dean on Instagram, Patreon, or his website.
- Write to Donald Antonio Scott, 16317-067 USP Terre Haute, PO Box 33, Terre Haute, IN 47808
- Buy and read Eric King’s books, A Clean Hell and Rattling the Cages: Oral Histories of North American Political Prisoners.
- Read more about Eric’s release here.
- Read Endjah’s writing here.
- Read more about Amber’s case here.
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TRANSCRIPTS
EP01 – adrienne maree brown (PDF)
EP02 – Hard Feelings (PDF)
EP03 – Tourmaline and Morgan Bassichis (PDF)
EP04 – What Else Is True? (PDF)
EP05 – Mariame Kaba (PDF)
EP06 – Long Distance and Electronic Communication (PDF)
EP07 – Prentis Hemphill (PDF)
EP08 – Should I Stay or Should I Go? (PDF)
EP09 – Weyam Ghadbian (PDF)
EP10 – Kelly Hayes (PDF)
EP11 – AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo (Part 1) (PDF)
EP12 – AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo (Part 2) (PDF)
EP13 – 7 Steps for De-escalating a Crush (PDF)
EP14 – Shira Hassan (PDF)
EP15 – Giving and Receiving Feedback (PDF)
EP16 – Holly Whitaker (PDF)
EP22 – Eli Clare (PDF)
EP26 – Love and Relationships Across Prison Walls – Part 1 (PDF)
LOVE IN A F*CKED UP WORLD – podcast credits
Hosted by Dean Spade
Produced and edited by Hope Dector
Creative Direction by Ciro Carrillo (@guard.dog.art.club)
Theme song: “I’ve Been Wondering” by The Ballet (@theballetnyc)